Love Is an Action

“Dear children, let us stop just saying we love each other; let us really show it by our actions” (1 John 3:18 NLT).


Love is more than attraction and more than arousal. It’s also more than sentimentality, like so many pop songs suggest. By this standard, is love dead when the emotion is gone? No, not at all. Because love is an action; love is a behavior.Over and over again in the Bible, God commands us to love each other. And you can’t command an emotion. If I told you, “Be sad!” you couldn’t be sad on cue. Just like an actor, you can fake it, but you’re not wired for your emotions to change on command. You know that truth if you’ve ever told a little kid, “Be happy!” “I’m trying, daddy!”If love were just an emotion, God couldn’t command it. But love is something you do. Yes, it can produce emotion, but love is an action.

The Bible says, “Let us stop just saying we love each other; let us really show it by our actions” (1 John 3:18 NLT). We can talk a good act: “I love people.” But do we really love them? Do you really love them? Our love is revealed in how we act toward them.


“About fighting and arguing”

Fighting comes from arrogance or when somebody feels inferior or somebody assumes he/she knows it all. When we consider this, we will learn something about an atmosphere of constructive debate.

Be mindful of the words you use. Try to always keep your counterpart’s situation in your mind when you are having an emotionally loaded conversation.
Force your ears to listen even when they are going deaf. You have two ears. One for yourself and one for your wife.

And please, never be too proud to say the following words: “I was wrong. I am sorry. Please forgive me.” This way you fight without leaving scars.

When having the next argument, put yourself in other person’s shoes and try to think from their perspective.
Don’t ever let the sun go down on your anger.

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